woman with alzheimers

Mom, Dad and Alzheimers

So, yesterday I went to get some photos taken. Turns out, the photographer, a lovely woman in her 30’s, has a father with advanced Alzheimers. Her mother is caring for him. Both are in their 70s, living at home. This is so typical of the worries and real-life caregiving issues across the generations today. The …

moving moms house

How to Handle Sibling Rivalry During the Downsize of a Parents Home

“Hide the Painting!  Here comes my brother!” Oftentimes, siblings bring differing points of view to a downsizing and moving transition made by the parent.   The occasional clash in point of view can present those of us in the industry with some potentially awkward situations, which we always do our best to handle with care. Once, …

upset elderly woman

How to Diffuse the Drama of Downsizing

Letting go of personal possessions can be an emotional process, and I find that it’s a bit more painful for seniors.  Even the simple need to donate old clothes when preparing for a move can be overwhelming for them, and introduce an extra layer of tension into an already fraught family situation (sometimes). One of …

aging in place

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Today we conducted a consultation with a woman in her 70’s, Mrs. Revere, facing a difficult turning point, living alone in a large home that includes an apartment and two-car garage that is, arguably, cluttered by the accumulation of 40+ years of life (including an 11-foot shelf full of cookbooks in the kitchen). Her choices …

aging in place bathroom

How to Update the Family Home as You Age

A lot of the clients with whom I work would rather remain in the home where they’ve raised their family, enjoyed a lifetime full of memories and are comfortable in a daily routine.  For many of these families, the option of updating and adapting the family home to meet the changing needs and capabilities of …

making the decision to move

Are you waiting too long to move your elderly parents?

Recently, in moves with my senior clients and their families, the issue of “waiting too long” has arisen. For adult children, recognition of the needs of the parents can take awhile as we don’t want to accept or acknowledge failings or frailty..and it is not easy for the parent(s) to accept or acknowledge the changes …